The answer is yes.
Granted, the ‘new year, new me’ attitude sounds stupid because numbers on a calendar do not instantly change us. Every second, every minute of every day changes us because we are constantly learning. If anything, I feel that marking the first date in a fresh year is just a ‘Hallmark’ way of kicking ourselves up the universal arse to have a fresh start, and a genius way at that.
Having an annum is just like having various different photo albums of our life, now the 2015 album is tightly tucked away in our memory and we are given the opportunity to reflect.
Reflecting is what makes us grow and become better people. Being given the opportunity to pause and replay out previous life:- the actions we took, the words we spoke, the feelings we hurt… Starting a new year is like pressing play on ourselves and trying to move forward. For me, 2015 was a particularly difficult year and at 00:01 this morning, I felt a heavy weight lift away and I know that I am going into a new chapter in my life.
My New Years resolutions are:
- Do one thing every day that scares me
- Travel more
- Smile more
- Worry less
It can take a huge amount of courage to commit to going travelling, either alone or with a companion. There is usually a catalyst to boost somebody to swallow whatever has been holding them back from booking their ticket to just go, be it a relationship break up, loss of job or another big change to shake things up a bit.
It’s very normal to plan to go travelling in advance to give ourselves chance to “plan” and save up some pennies. People I know have booked their flights at least 6-9 months prior to departure. So why is it that every, single time, we always meet what seems to be our perfect partner within this waiting period?! It has happened to everybody I know who has gone off backpacking.
My friend Jess met a boy who she was totally smitten with. They were the perfect couple, always laughing and so in love with each other. From day one he had warned her that he was planning to emigrate to Australia in a year and even though she said it was fine, deep down she had always hoped he would change his mind and stay at home to be with her. He didn’t. In fact, when it came to him booking his flight ticket, he made it clear he wanted to go alone. Neither of them wanted to end the relationship so they tried long distance for a while. After two months of him leaving, the relationship began to die and they ended it.
A man I know called Christopher who is Australian spent months planning a detailed itinerary to travel around Europe for a year, visiting every town and city he could fit in. He had saved up for over a year for this trip! He had some relatives living in London and as it was his first port of call, he decided to email them before and stay with them for a couple of nights. They threw a huge party and one of his relatives invited a female friend who he clicked with so much so that he decided to stay in London and not travel to any of the places in Europe he was planning to visit. This was 7 years ago and they are now married with children.
Then there was my friend Becky. She had been single for about a year when she decided to take the plunge and go travelling by herself in South America. She planned it all months beforehand and was so excited. About a month before she was due to depart… She fell in love. He was her perfect man and they decided to stay together in spite of her travels. They didn’t know each other very well and it was very testing to their relationship being so far apart when their love was so young. Months later, she returned home, they moved in together and to this day they are still in love.
So… Maybe all I need to do to find my perfect man is book a plane ticket?!
How do you like the sound of going to a 513 thousand square kilometre water party? You can do just that, annually in Thailand.
Songkran is an annual festival that marks the Thai New Year. The entire country stops for a few days to throw water and clay over each other. It signifies a bathing ritual to Buddha and is a LOT of fun!
It originally dates back to rituals where people would splash water on their relatives to promote health and happiness. Today…. It is something else!
I have personally had the Priveledge of celebrating a Thai New Year several years ago, purely by accident. A friend and myself spent a couple of nights in Bangkok en route the Phuket and due to jet lag and exhaustion, decided to spend the night in our hotel room eating chocolate. We were aware of some kind of festival taking place, but didn’t know much about it or have the energy to attend. There was a 7/11 over the road so we thought we would skip through the crowds, pick up some choccies and head back to the room. That didn’t happen. Within seconds of leaving our hotel, we were grabbed by locals and literally hosed down. We were carted off into the crowds and had strangers actually rubbing clay into our faces. I wasn’t going down without a fight so I ‘sourced’ myself a water pistol and started giving some back. At one point we were standing on the roof of an SUV dancing with the Thai’s and had the most incredibly fun evening. There was something so wonderful about the whole country – locals and tourists, joining together in one giant party and touching each other faces whilst laughing and ruining your make up!
The festival lasts anything from 1 day to 1 week, depending on where you are in Thailand. I could still see the after affects all over the place when I arrived in Phuket 3 days later.
Songkran 2016 starts on 13th April and I highly recommend it! Just don’t wear see through white shorts like I did!!!