I have recently moved to a new area, alone, hundreds of miles from my loved ones. This has inspired this post….
“Please don’t be offended if I am staring. People watching goes to a whole new level in a place with a different culture, attitude and accent. Likewise with looking at buildings and landscapes. It is all shiny and new to me, even if you have seen it a thousand times before.
Please don’t follow me around the store because I look nervous, to the shop assistant. I have come in the store to buy something to cheer me up. I am nervous; I don’t know anybody here. I am not shoplifting.
Please don’t stare at me, to the man with his girlfriend / wife. I am not interested in somebody who is ‘taken’ and do not want to make enemies with your partner.
Please be welcoming. One nice word or act of kindness can change a very lonely feeling to a much happier one. Thank you to those who have done so.
Please ask me questions. If you are curious as to why I am alone, or why you have not seen my face around before, please ask me. I am happy to open up and share my story and would love to hear yours.
Please accept that this is hard. It is possibly the most difficult thing I have ever done. I am not crazy for moving somewhere new, but brave and hopeful for a better life. For after all, like birds, we are not meant to stay in the same spot forever.”
If you are on a long term trip or temporarily living abroad, one of the hardest times is being separated from loved ones during the festive period.
Christmas, for most, is a time to spend with those nearest and dearest and share – love!!!
For me, it’s important to spend it with family. My family are very spread out and not particularly close. But, at Christmas, we all stop for a day and spend it with each other. I normally adore Christmas.
This is going to be my first Christmas alone. I am sadly not travelling, I am working. I chose a career in healthcare which does not stop when Santa visits. I have also just experienced a relationship break up and am now living alone again. This got me thinking about people all over the world who, for whatever reason, cannot spend Christmas with their loved ones.
There has been a lot of press about people who are alone this Christmas and it encouraged me to look into it. It breaks my heart to think of elderly, homeless or lonely people who have nobody or nothing over Christmas. Loneliness and depression increases. It’s no wonder that January has the highest suicide rate of any month.
Let’s all take a minute to think of those less fortunate than ourselves over Christmas, or even donate your time or a small amount of money to a local homeless shelter. Check on your elderly neighbours who live alone or even better, invite them for dinner.